As Sheryl Sandberg points out, ‘fear is at the root of so many of the barriers that women face’. As an International Education Specialist and as an Executive Coach, I ask women leaders: ‘what would you do if you were not afraid’. I take them on a powerful journey. I support and challenge them. What if I took you on a journey to explore your fear with you?
You didn’t learn to walk in one day
Positive change and learning is achieved by having a conversation where you will be thinking and acting differently. Don’t expect to be transformed instantly. You didn’t learn to walk in one day! It takes consistent effort on a daily basis to think and act differently.
I want you to feel empowered
Being clear on why you are pursuing your goal is an important first step to overcome your doubts as you make changes in your life.
Overcome your doubts and insecurities
How will you feel a year from now if nothing in your life has changed?
Give yourself permission to go for it
The journey might start with this question: ‘What is it about doing what you truly want that makes you feel so vulnerable?’
You fear you are not being liked
What will you choose to believe about yourself?
You fear you are not being capable
What progress have you made? How do you celebrate it?
You fear you are making the wrong choice
What opportunity is this giving you?
You fear you are drawing negative attention
What ‘Headspace’ do you have? How do you let go? How about trying this Headspace app on Itunes?
You fear you are being judged
How do you overcome the fear of being judged by others? What do you do to manage the fear and anxiety that comes with going against the grain?
You fear you are a failure
What if another opportunity (because things did not work out) opens a new door?
You fear you are being a bad mother/ wife/ daughter
What would a good mother, good wife, good daughter look like, be like?
If you want to explore more, watch any of these Ted Talks:
Isaac Lidsky: What reality are you creating for yourself?
Karen Thompson Walker: What fear can teach us?
Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability
Renata Salecl: Our unhealthy obsession with choice
And then ask yourself: who can support you in your journey? When you surround yourselves with others who believe in you and support your vision then you can lean on them for encouragement and inspiration to reach your goals. And embrace your uniqueness. There will only ever be one of you. Your DNA is unique. Think about all the things that make you unique. It is your difference that gives you the power that you have.